I live in a place where there are two Women Upstairs.
That description is perfect. The book wasn’t, or it wasn’t exactly my idea of a Woman Upstairs, although it contained some of the qualities: single. Works earnestly at her socially helpful vocation. Drinks a little (or a lot) too much and hides it. Has many needy friends that come and go. Is long past dressing sexy although she is not old. Drives a crappy car. Cries easily
The first Women Upstairs in my memory were spinster sisters at my grandmother’s house. They were the upstairs tenants, retired teachers. I loved to go upstairs to visit them because they had spent their summers travelling to India, “The Orient”, Europe, Canada, South America. They let me and my sisters dress up in kimonos and sombreros. They loved to read to us. They laughed when we asked why they weren’t married, and said, “Oh sweetie, it’s because we have each other!” They died within months of one and other and my grandmother had to empty their bursting apartment, which contained a back room of garbage bags filled with empty burbon bottles.
Our Women Upstairs each live in their own apartment on the second floor of our 4 family.
K— has been here for almost ten years. She moved in when her engagement fell apart. She was a teary mess, accompanied by her ex-fiance who wanted to help her find a nice place to live. She had a good job and terrific references. A single gal would be a nice change of pace after the two-year old twins racing over our heads from dawn till 10 p.m. And it was; she was quiet and neat. She did call us for a lot of concerns-some relevent like the dripping faucet, others odd like the squirrels racing up and down the tree in front of the house. She was a little strange to start: we had to re-enamel the claw-foot tub after she painted it midnight blue (???) and we had to ask her not to put her speakers facing out when she blasted Billie Holiday after ten at night (???).
Then K— lost her steady day job (not her fault, the economy tanked). She found jobs waitressing and bartending so paying the rent was never a problem although we started getting it stacks of crumpled ones, fives and tens. My husband was concerned she was living beyond her means, but I was in her corner because I had lived month-to-month in my life and nothing would have been more devastating then losing my apartment when I was scraping by. Her hours changed and it was pretty obvious by our banging ceiling that she was bringing someone or something home after closing time. Early one morning as I was heading out for a run, I almost stepped on what I thought was an injured hobo in our foyer. He had one crutch, a casted arm and a bandaged head. “Ahhh, you looking for someone?” I asked/demanded in my toughest voice. “It’s all right, no problem, I’m a friend of K–‘s”, and he limped off into the dark.
K— is hanging in there by a thread. She finally junked her car after it rotted in our driveway for over eight months. We can hear her crying to her sister for money when she talks on her back porch. She’s living hard, looks like she’s aged 20 years, gained 30 pounds and noisily dumps plastic bags of cheap wine bottles and beer cans into the recycling bins every other day, no shame. I’m rooting for her because I think her life is tough but she’s scrappy and works incredibly hard but each month I’m afraid she’s going to cry poor or hand in a short pile of crumpled bills. Sometimes I think I could have been K—.
T— lives across the hall. She’s only been Upstairs for a little over a year. She is young, young enough to be my daughter. She’s an intellectual, a researcher at MIT. She comes from a lot of money. She doesn’t have a car, instead she’s locked an expensive city bike to the front porch but I never see her ride it. T— is quiet. Really quiet. She dresses like a 1950’s school teacher: pencil skirts and cardigan sweater sets but T— is heavy. She has columnar legs, no ankles, a gooshy midsection and no chin. Her skin is pale, clammy, almost gray. It makes no sense because she’s a vegetarian. I know this because she mail orders all her food–not kidding! Boxes of fresh veg, hummus, quinoa, bulger, soy and fruit fill the foyer each week. Every morning I hear her vitamix whirring. It was a complete mystery to me why she’s this soft! I want to tell her, Get Moving! Ride that beautiful bike! You’re too young to be this doughy! But we just smile and nod at each other as I squeeze past her mail order vegetarian groceries to get in our front door.
The mystery of T— was solved by our garbage men a couple of weeks ago. They started tossing aside bags of garbage and affixed orange stickers on them stating our city’s recycling initiative. Essentially, glass bottles and cans need to go in the recycle bin. The garbage men aren’t militant, but they won’t collect bags full of recyclable items. We looked into the rejected bags and found empty whiskey and wine bottles, beer bottles, liquor bottles and nips. We laughed at the stash and then asked the tenants to recycle because our garbage got rejected. K— and the guy on the top floor took it in stride but T— became defensive. “I know what should be recycled! Why are garbage men going through the trash?” Uuuuhhhh, because they’re Garbage Men, T—.
Her attitude raised my suspicion. Her nap on the cellar floor by the washing machine confirmed it. T— was plastered. I was able to wake her up and get her to her apartment. After many hugs and promises that she’d go to bed (total personality flip), she flopped on her couch. The next morning she was at our door, looking like her usual pale frumpy self. She apologized and said she has social anxiety disorder and sometimes drinks too much. Could I help, I asked? She looked at me as if I was from another planet. My husband says to stay out of it. We have her parents number just in case.